I like to think about sexuality and subcultures. My favorite topics include BDSM, masculinity, and communication.

My best-known book is about love, sexuality, gender and ethics.

On the other hand, I also wrote a different book about the subculture of men who trade tips on how to seduce and manipulate women:

I give great lectures on my favorite topics. I've spoken at a huge variety of places — academic institutions like the University of Chicago; new media conventions like South By Southwest; museums like the Museum of Sex; and lots of others.

I've also written about rape in virtual worlds, and I really love the Southeast Asian legend The Ramayana. I'm semi-famous for infiltrating the pickup artist subculture — men who trade tips on how to seduce and manipulate women.

I established myself by creating this blog. I don't update the blog much anymore, but you can still read my archives. My best writing is available in my books, anyway.

I've lived in Swaziland, Greece, Chicago, and a lot of other places. I've worked in game design, public health, and bookstores. Now I live in San Francisco. My birth name is Lydia Laurenson. Find me on Twitter @lydialaurenson, and read about my new big project here.