In February I published two pieces that are way more emotionally personal than most things I toss out in public: my S&M coming-out story and my last post, about my recent history with saying “I love you”. And those pieces weren’t just personal for me, but also got more personal about my partners than I usually do.

What’s interesting about this is that although I got the consent of everyone in my life who’s involved in those posts before I published, and although I was sure that I’d already made my feelings clear to everyone involved as well (and that they’d made theirs clear to me), publishing the pieces still caused no fewer than three Serious Relationship Discussions with different people … venting emotions and clarifying stances. I can’t decide if writing so personally is something I should do all the time for Maximum Relationship Communication Power, or something that will drive me crazy in the end.